RODERICK JABARI BLAKNEY (2nd born)
I have really become annoyed with people thinking that my son is like “the bad seed” of the family. It hurts me more because it’s his own people always talking about what he does wrong. I can admit that he is a little obnoxious and aggravating at times but when you compare my boy to some of the kids these days, he is an angel. I’ll take obnoxious any day. I have come to realize that he is just like me when I was his age. He got more grown people disliking him then kids his own age. As they say people hate what they can’t understand. I talk to my kids about life, about situations, about people, anything and everything I can think of to make them more knowledgeable. When I hear what the streets saying about me I brush it off. Normally it’s not even true but if it is I feel like there are worse things I could do then the petty crap people like to talk about. The same goes for my son. He gets in trouble at school for doing dumb stuff. Stuff that doesn’t make much sense to me. He’s a silly kid and he does silly things. It’s mind boggling sometimes. At times he acts like he just doesn’t know any better. He’s been in trouble with the law one time. He did his community service and is no longer on probation. The fact that he hasn’t been in any serious trouble should count for something. I’m proud of him but I never thought he was a bad kid. Every one makes mistakes and I don’t think it fair that people keep throwing your past up in your face. I don’t think it’s fair that if you change for the better, people still treat you like crap. People are so quick to remember the negative over the positive. Like the quote goes” it’s in the past, let it stay there”. I get so worried about him because Roc is so much like me. I know what I was going through when I was his age. He says he’s ok but with everything going on with him I worry constantly. I don’t want him beating up on himself because of what people say and how people treat him. People need to understand that words can leave scars that last a lifetime. Especially if those words are coming from someone who is supposed to love you. I have good kids. And I’m comparing them to the kids their age that’s locked up, running the streets, dropped out or expelled from school. I’m thankful they haven’t fallen into the wrong crowd. I’m thankful for the “little” trouble that they may get in. I taught Roc that if anybody disrespects him he doesn’t have to respect them. Bump all that “respect your elders” crap. No one has the right to treat and talk to people any kind of way just because they older than you. No matter what he’s my baby and I’m going to always have his back. I’ll tell him when he’s wrong. I’ll continue to encourage him and talk to him about the ways of the world. I think he’s some what immature for his age but I rather have immature than him selling drugs or whatever. People can think what they want to think about him. He could care less. I don’t care either. Long as they keep they distance and keep their comments to themselves. Roc will always have my love and nothing in this world can top a mother's love. Streets are always watching, always talking and don’t know what’s really going on. It’s either old news or no news. I know I’m not the perfect parent. I don’t pretend to be but my kids make me feel like I’m good mother and that’s all that matters to me. It’s a lot of people outside looking in, judging me and my family. Its things I do that they may not agree with but that’s life. It’s always going to be this way. I live for Fric, Frac and Moe. Peoples opinions, perceptions, criticisms of me doesn’t carry any weight on me. I only have to answer to God when it’s all said and done. At the end of the day I’m good, I’m at peace. I’m laughing at the talk and going about my business. 10 & 2 all day, everyday. Don’t be concerned about me and mines, we good. Just because my sin is different from your sin doesn’t make you any better or less than me. We all fall short in the eyes of God. I love you Roderick Jabari Blakney. As they say "let your haters be your motivators". Never stop being you just because other people too ignorant to understand. ✌❤
I have really become annoyed with people thinking that my son is like “the bad seed” of the family. It hurts me more because it’s his own people always talking about what he does wrong. I can admit that he is a little obnoxious and aggravating at times but when you compare my boy to some of the kids these days, he is an angel. I’ll take obnoxious any day. I have come to realize that he is just like me when I was his age. He got more grown people disliking him then kids his own age. As they say people hate what they can’t understand. I talk to my kids about life, about situations, about people, anything and everything I can think of to make them more knowledgeable. When I hear what the streets saying about me I brush it off. Normally it’s not even true but if it is I feel like there are worse things I could do then the petty crap people like to talk about. The same goes for my son. He gets in trouble at school for doing dumb stuff. Stuff that doesn’t make much sense to me. He’s a silly kid and he does silly things. It’s mind boggling sometimes. At times he acts like he just doesn’t know any better. He’s been in trouble with the law one time. He did his community service and is no longer on probation. The fact that he hasn’t been in any serious trouble should count for something. I’m proud of him but I never thought he was a bad kid. Every one makes mistakes and I don’t think it fair that people keep throwing your past up in your face. I don’t think it’s fair that if you change for the better, people still treat you like crap. People are so quick to remember the negative over the positive. Like the quote goes” it’s in the past, let it stay there”. I get so worried about him because Roc is so much like me. I know what I was going through when I was his age. He says he’s ok but with everything going on with him I worry constantly. I don’t want him beating up on himself because of what people say and how people treat him. People need to understand that words can leave scars that last a lifetime. Especially if those words are coming from someone who is supposed to love you. I have good kids. And I’m comparing them to the kids their age that’s locked up, running the streets, dropped out or expelled from school. I’m thankful they haven’t fallen into the wrong crowd. I’m thankful for the “little” trouble that they may get in. I taught Roc that if anybody disrespects him he doesn’t have to respect them. Bump all that “respect your elders” crap. No one has the right to treat and talk to people any kind of way just because they older than you. No matter what he’s my baby and I’m going to always have his back. I’ll tell him when he’s wrong. I’ll continue to encourage him and talk to him about the ways of the world. I think he’s some what immature for his age but I rather have immature than him selling drugs or whatever. People can think what they want to think about him. He could care less. I don’t care either. Long as they keep they distance and keep their comments to themselves. Roc will always have my love and nothing in this world can top a mother's love. Streets are always watching, always talking and don’t know what’s really going on. It’s either old news or no news. I know I’m not the perfect parent. I don’t pretend to be but my kids make me feel like I’m good mother and that’s all that matters to me. It’s a lot of people outside looking in, judging me and my family. Its things I do that they may not agree with but that’s life. It’s always going to be this way. I live for Fric, Frac and Moe. Peoples opinions, perceptions, criticisms of me doesn’t carry any weight on me. I only have to answer to God when it’s all said and done. At the end of the day I’m good, I’m at peace. I’m laughing at the talk and going about my business. 10 & 2 all day, everyday. Don’t be concerned about me and mines, we good. Just because my sin is different from your sin doesn’t make you any better or less than me. We all fall short in the eyes of God. I love you Roderick Jabari Blakney. As they say "let your haters be your motivators". Never stop being you just because other people too ignorant to understand. ✌❤
I learned to never argue with fools and stupid people I’m so
tired of Moo-Moo blaming me because my son isn’t the way he wants him to be. My
boy is 20 years old. His formative years are long gone. The way he is now is
the way he’ll be unless he decides to change himself. I can tell him right from
wrong all day long but at the end of the day the choice is his. All I can do is
encourage and help him if he’s trying to help himself. Moo-Moo wasn’t around
when my son was growing up. I don’t fault him for that but Moo-Moo faults me
because I raised Roc my way. If he had been there everyday like I was maybe my
son would have adapted his ways. Moo-Moo has to realize he can’t make my child
be like him, think like him. Roc is his own person. I agree, Roc is clueless
about the real world but Roc chooses the hard way instead listening. Communication
is the most difficult thing ever with the both of them. I don’t even try
anymore. It should be so simple but they both make it so difficult and it’s
exhausting. I don’t even know why Moo-Moo called me the other day. Don’t
involve me with y’all stuff. You don’t like me; you don’t value my opinion so
why are you even calling me. Just because Roc is my child he expects me to know
every single detail about him. Roc’s not a kid anymore. My momma don’t and didn’t
know ever single detail about me. I concern myself with what’s important but
everything else in my boy’s life is none of my business. Moo-Moo is such a hypocrite
he loaned my son money to pay a FDTC bill. As a parent he should gave my son
that money. That’s money he should be giving him anyway. Moo-Moo and his ideas
of parenting are all wrong and backwards. My son birthday came and he didn’t
give him anything. Granted he lets him drive a car to work. I really appreciate
that. If it were me, I would let my child drive the car to get to work but make
the child be responsible for insurance and gas. As a parent that’s what we do
for our kids. Everything Moo-Moo does for Roc is like a favor and if Roc shows
that he’s unappreciative of the favors Moo-Moo takes them away. My question to
him is if you want your child to be successful and you have the tools he needs
why won’t you help him. He makes it damn near impossible for my boy to succeed.
Moo-Moo thinks its tough love but its not working. What works for me is letting
him do it his way. His dad has no faith in him and I feel he doesn’t even like
him. He tolerates him because he is his son but that’s about it. Moo-Moo has
been there but he really hasn’t been “there”. Emotionally there is no
connection with them. Moo-Moo never gave him the time and attention my boy needed
from his daddy. Moo-Moo has his ways of
thinking how everything should be. He doesn’t allow opinions and ideas even if
it makes sense. He never assumes responsibility even when he’s wrong. He
manipulates every situation and he’s never the bad guy. It’s always has to be
his way. Roc is just like his daddy because Moo-Moo never listens and neither
does Roc. So Moo-Moo can’t get mad at me cause the apple doesn’t fall far from
the tree.
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