Don't Be Mad, White Guys Are No Different

I thought this might be an interesting post but now that I’m actually typing I don’t think I want to share my experiences with the Caucasian men because they are no different from the black men. On a few of my social media sites, I've seen people talking junk about Rihanna and Serena for dating a white guy. I don't know why anyone would be upset.  It’s always some reason you aren’t “the one” no matter what race you are. you can get played and dogged out just the same. Growing up I always had a thing for white guys but never acted on it. I remember crushing on Matt Roller in the second grade. I never wanted to be white but I did want to hang out with a certain group of white people in high school. I always felt like they knew how to party, and they do. There was always talk about “the hedge.”  It was a place they went to chill, drink, hook up etc. I wanted to check it out; mainly to be nosey. I wanted to know who was with who and who was doing what. White people like to hide their dirt so I was curious to see what it was like hanging out with them. I definitely know some white boys got up caught up with prescription pills back then. Like with black guys, I was particular about the type of white I guy I wanted to deal with. I like the rich liberal kind. He wears his Dockers, boat shoes and button ups but not strictly conservative. Even the yuppie type because they work hard but play much, much harder. My senior year in high school I was crushing on Matt Roller again. We talked a few times. I liked him. I guess I always liked him. In elementary I sat behind him so we weren’t strangers. Matt was my perfect type; his dad was a preacher. You know what they say about preacher’s kids. I heard he was caught up with that pill thing too. Anyway I was truly crushed by him because he was scared to cross that line. If he really like me like that I don’t think it would have mattered. He’s married now. I’ve seen him once since graduation. It took me a while to really get stop thinking and dreaming about him. The dreams really would blow my mind though. Good vivid dreams about us together. Anyway I did finally experience being with a white guy. A supervisor and I had a fling for a few months. He was older. We would spend Wednesday’s together. We’d sip wine, eat dinner and watch the Nanny. It was his favorite show. That was a lot for me because it different from what I had been getting. I was with Moo-Moo at the time. He introduced me to Abercrombie & Fitch. He always wore their signature scent which was called Woods back then. He played golf so he was very much the type of white guy I always wanted to date. He moved back to Charleston. The night before he left we went out together. I had so much fun. He watched me dance. We danced one song which was Shania Twain “Your Still the One”. Ever since then I made sure I always had that song. From cd to mp3. On every playlist I ever created. We talked a few times after he moved but eventually lost contact. I broke up with Moo-Moo and started hanging in Florence at Shooters. I met Brian and I was head over heels at first sight. I was in love. Things never really took off with him. We rarely saw each other. I blame myself for that. I chose Kelly Joe because he wanted a relationship. We had a good relationship. He was young but had his own place. Knew how to save money. We were always doing something together. We were always together and he never gave me any reason to act on what I felt for Brian. I never cheated on Kelly. His parents and sister treated my boys like family. Kelly left me because I couldn't stop obsessing over Brian. When Adrianna was born he came over to make sure she was black. I don't think he dates black girls anymore. He is doing very well for himself. I never had any bad experiences but I won’t seek out white guys like I did in 98 & 99. If I meet one and WE fall in love, I wouldn’t fight it. I’m even open to guys with of middle eastern descent. Just for fun; I’ve always heard they were strict and jealous. Now if he’s rich from the UAE, I’d definitely get married. Only thing that makes any man different is his character. So Rihanna and Serena may have found good guys that happen to be white. Don’t be mad because someone is happy. That’s hating. I hate to think this but some of these woman could be flawed. Maybe their relationships didn’t work because of issues they have. Jealousy can make a woman crazy. No man should have to deal with that. I don’t know about Serena but I do believe Rihanna may have some jealousy issues.  I think Janet and Halle know their worth and know when it’s time to chuck the deuces. Men are trash and it’s truly hard to find a good one. Look at all the trash in a landfill, I bet if you take the time and look through it, you may find something valuable.